Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Had Enough {SOL 1-13-15}

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For the past three years, my daughter has worked a few times a week after school at a horse farm down the street doing chores -- feeding the horses, bringing them in at the end of the day, getting fresh water, etc.  We also leased a horse for her to ride during the summers.  Over the years, we've watched Kara grow in confidence and connection with the horses and other girls who worked at the farm and we were thrilled!

But as time went on, her relationship with the people at the farm began to change...

Over the past year, the owner of the farm and several of the other girls who work there have not been treating Kara so nicely.  We're not sure when, why or how things started to go south.

At first, it was just something that happened occasionally.  Kara would be excluded from group barn events like barn sleepovers and helping with camps.  My daughter became really good at covering up the hurt this caused her.  She still loved riding and felt a certain connection with her horse.

Then it became more frequent.

The barn owner would yell at Kara for minor things. The other girls began posting team outings on Instagram that Kara would see.

As time went by, I watched the pain that this caused my daughter.  She had to balance her love for the horses with the cruel treatment she was receiving.  It was killing me!

Then, on Sunday, Kara had had enough.  She found out there was another sleepover at the barn that she was left out of and she decided it was time to stand up for herself and not let people treat her so poorly. So on Sunday, she made the very difficult decision to quit working at the barn and to leave the horses she loved.  She went to the barn, got her riding gear, said goodbye to the horses, and gave her notice.

As her mom, I was so proud of her for standing up for herself, but my heart also broke for her as well. She loved riding and loved the good times she spent at the farm.

Now, we are in the process of finding a new farm for Kara to join.  I'm sure that the right barn will come along and Kara will ride again.  I'm also sure that she will remember what it felt like to have had enough and how empowering it was to speak up for herself.

As her mom, I know I will.


  1. As a parent, it is so, so, so hard to watch our kids go through these kinds of heart-breaking experiences. I always wonder how the adults involved can be so cruel. Good for your daughter for standing up for herself. As someone who lived for my "horse time" in middle school, I can't imagine how hard it must have been to say goodbye to her four legged friend. Here's to new adventures and happier times at a new barn!

  2. This is both heartbreaking and empowering to read. I'm sorry your daughter had to endure such bad behavior on the part of others, but I'm silently cheering for her strength. It's a shame to had to quit something she loves. This will end up being a blessing in disguise, I'm sure. She'll find exactly where she is supposed to be. Bravo to her!

  3. Good for Kara - it takes courage and strength to do what she did. Now - here's to a new horse farm, and new connections. Here's to Kara!

  4. I will never understand why people treat others in such a disrespectful fashion, and adults none the less! I'm glad your daughter decided to move on.

  5. I'll never understand how people feel good about acting bad toward someone or something. How terrible for Kara, and yet you've empowered her to take care of herself. What a good thing that is! The pictures took me back; I rode for years and had a palomino that looked very like the horse Kara is riding! Tell her that there are wonderful barns out there that will give her much pleasure!


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